As the mother of a one year old I hear myself saying “Don’t touch that” often. I am a fan of her natural curiosity though and unless it could be truly detrimental to her safety or the safety of whatever it is she’s touching, I tend to let her carry on.
Before reading it I can’t honesty tell you that I remembered God only told Adam and Eve not to eat from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil. It was Eve who added in that God said not to touch it.
You might not wish to discredit Eve for putting safety first, but then, we all know what ended up happening.
While the book addresses many areas for the married or single in light of Jesus’ earthly ministry, I think one of my biggest takeaways was how we can be obsessed with safety and what that leads us to miss out on.
The #metoo movement and the #churchtoo movement gives me credible reason for pause as I consider how to raise my daughter in a perverse world. At the very same time I must remember safety itself is not a reason to mold a lifestyle on a foundation of fear. Allowing fear to dictate how I relate to other humans does not lead to healthy relationships. This book is about how to handle those relationships with care and not fear while also validating those fears as coming from a very deep part of who we were created to be.
“Most of us are legalists from birth and to protect ourselves, we draw the lines farther and farther from the truth. Sexual touch is meant solely for marriage, but God did not say we cannot touch our fathers and mothers, brothers and sisters, children and friends, uncles and aunts, pastors and congregations, old folks and young ones, singles and married, and the list goes on.” Lore Ferguson Wilbert, Handle With Care
Part of the Body
For the last year I have watched as my baby grasps reality literally in her hands, every day discovering something new. She now can grab my neck with her squishy little hands and smash her nose on my face. All I can think is sometimes we don’t know the love we lack until it touches us.
There is so much lack around us and I feel deeply that this book is a wonderful place to begin the conversation especially for what we as the body of Christ can do about it.
Today is the last day to pre-order the book Handle With Care. You can order it here and if you do, go to this link to sign up for some special bonuses from the author!
I was given a copy of the book for being on the prelaunch team which left me under no obligation to like the book or come here and tell you about it. It isn’t a light topic, but Lore has a tender approach so if you agree it’s time we start talking about these things I think her book is an excellent place to start. This book will have an impact and I hope you’ll read it.